MY JOURNEY AS AN ARMY WIFE

Being an Army wife comes with its own set of challenges and adventures,often leading to incidents that are rich with life lessons.Here's one:

         As a newlywed I embarked on a journey as an army- wife with excitement and anticipation,eager to support my spouse.Little I know,the road ahead would be filled with uncertainties and moments that would put my resilience to the test.

               The tenure started from small cantonment in Rajasthan. A short memorable posting, initiating me into unit life.I learnt the skill of doing up the most barren place artistically and slowly, I painted in the color of olive green. Meanwhile, due to some engagement we were left alone in remote station.Families preferred to stay back in the same cantonment to not disrupt their wards education.One night,My senior lady called me up and discussed an issue.Promptly we decided to take our own vehicle due to time boundation.We reached in family quaters those were far way due to new constructed buildings and took a seven year old injured boy in our car.He was bleeding heavily in head.I pressed firmly with a cloth on his wound.He treated at MH.Then we consoled his mother.Later on ,we educated and motivated families-

First to ask help,second don't be panic in any situation and most importantly try to learn regional languages to avoid language barrier.

  In this way,I learnt that Army is a community which having a sense of affection,belonging and togetherness despite coming from different backgrounds.We become family to each other.

RAAT

 Yeh sochne wali raat,

Yeh aankon me nikal jaane wali raat,

Yeh khud ki samjhaish wali raat,

Vo thak ker chur hone per bhi,

Aankon me neend na aane wali raat,

Vo jo nahi mila,

Or na mil sakne wala majak,

Us upper wale se,

Hone wali ladai ki raat,

Khud ko jakdne wali raat,

Sab bikhara or tuta hua,

Sametane wali raat,

Jo sahi h bas vahi kerne ko,

Apnane wali raat,

Sab maan Jane per bhi,

Kuch tuta or chubta hua si raat,

Khub takatwar ban Jane per bhi,

Sab chut Jane wali raat,

Khokhala karne wali raat,

Khud ki samjhaish,

Usoolon ki aajmaish wali raat,

Koi na,

Beet jayegi raat,

Per ab kyu

In this era we are too control freak and everything is handy.eg-gasgets,automobiles,etc. But still our own thoughts and emotions are out of control. Isn't there any way to get rid of these feelings?In which way do we also start behaving like machines. 

That only person..

 That only person,

Whom do you rely on,

In your happiness,

In deep sadness, 

In every silence,

In unexplained pain,

In every laughter,

In mid of juggler,

In every struggle, 

In happines of wiggle, 

In any solve of puzzle,

When and where you stuck in,

By whom you are tuck in,

In every presence,

In those absence, 

When sadly you see empty seat,

When you make them proud,

When made them anger loud,

When memories can't be vanished, 

Where judgment is finished, 

They always understand, 

At last ,

Whenever you asked,

Am I right?

They say "yes"

Am with you always. 🤗

They sigh,

And exhaled,

"Yeah,my.....

Lucky whosever have this kinda person in their life.Even it's a single person where you don't need to put any curtains and having full transparency, dependency and relying.Embrace it gracefully. 

BALANCE!

 An ancient Chinese symbol 'Ying-Yang' visualize duality light and dark,positive and negative.It's more than two side of coin,represents balance in life.

 Continuously We all seek off  balance,peace and harmony in life. Balancing among the matter of life gives us satisfaction and gratitude. Direct our direction towards path ahead with clarity.

But we can't get everything in life.Something,  somewhere always left.We can't choose everything. We can't choose day or night, dawn-dusk ,sun-moon together. As well as we can't get good family life and career,our health and family's health,our time and others well-being,our desires and importance of everyone's fuure something need to be sacrificed.

The day you start working on your field gradually you will start moving ahead towards success,knowledge is the key which cannot be taken away from you through you can establish yourself anywhere anytime. 

As physics law 'Entropy' suggests every living and non-living matter looks for balance and shift molecules accordingly.At some level our brain & emotions start working with shifting contentment  towards discontenment.We start looking for those things we left behind to make balance of given situations and it's human tendency. 

So look insightfully in your actions and always pat your backs cause nobody knows better than you what have you faced and get everything done to achieve this balance,overcome discontenment and move ahead on path of more achievements rather discussing what didn't you get in life?

You may be easily entitled as a negative person if you discuss hardship of your life,May be judged easily ,People look at you in pity. As Chankya said"Even your own shadow in mirror shouldn't know the weaknesses of life it may be discourage you".

Keep balance,hold assets tight and move ahead on progressive path.Don't underestimate anything .Everything is having it's own importance at different time and places in life and stop feeling bad cause everyone isn't granted everything in life.

Sometimes champion isn't who just wins ,champion is who shows courage,passion and determination when face adversity .

"Wear your failure as a badge of honor "

                                           -Sunder Pichai

Believe in yourself !!

A GLANCE OF PAST!!

 **The Unexpected Tea Ceremony**

Life in Dimapur has its unique charm, especially as the wife of a dedicated Assam Rifles officer. One particular experience stands out, blending amusement with valuable life lessons.

One early morning, I decided to take a walk through the nearby village, hoping to immerse myself in the local culture. As I strolled past traditional bamboo houses, I noticed a small group of villagers gathered around a table. Curious, I approached them and was warmly invited to join their tea ceremony.

Excited but slightly nervous, I took a seat. The host, an elderly gentleman with a warm smile, began the ceremony by pouring tea from a beautifully decorated pot. As he handed me a cup, he began speaking in rapid-fire Nagamese, the local dialect. Not understanding a word, I smiled and nodded politely.

He then gestured for me to drink the tea. I took a sip and immediately felt my mouth on fire. The tea was infused with an incredibly spicy local herb! Trying to keep my composure, I gulped it down, my eyes watering. The villagers watched, their expressions a mix of curiosity and amusement.

Just as I thought the worst was over, the host refilled my cup, and everyone around the table followed suit. Determined to be polite, I drank cup after cup, each one hotter than the last. By the fourth cup, my tolerance had run out. I gently set my cup down and tried to convey my appreciation with a series of hand gestures and smiles.

The villagers burst into laughter, and the elderly host patted my back. In broken English, he said, "Madam, you brave. But next time, say no if too hot!"

Later that day, as I reflected on the morning's adventure, I gleaned two crucial life lessons:

1. **Embrace the Unexpected**: Living in a new place often brings unexpected challenges and experiences. Embracing these moments with an open mind and a willingness to adapt makes the journey more rewarding and memorable.

2. **Know Your Limits**: It’s important to be polite and respectful, but also to recognize and honor your own limits. There’s no shame in admitting when something is too much to handle. True hospitality is understanding and accommodating, not just enduring.

The spicy tea ceremony became a favorite tale to share with friends and family, a reminder of the joy and richness found in stepping out of one’s comfort zone and the importance of knowing when to say "no, thank you."

HAPPY

 Happiness, 

Wanna to make everyone happy, 

Wanna to see smile on each and every face,

Never wanna to dishearten anyone, 

Wanna to protect every heart from heartbreak, 

When I know,

What other person is thinking, 

When I know,

What other person is doing, 

Neglecting myself, 

Neglecting needs,

Neglecting values, 

Neglecting me,

Taking charge of every smile,

And trying to find happiness in those faces,

Is it alright, 

Am I right,

Or gonna wrong?

Who knows?

And if somebody knows ,

Than let me know please....

EMUSING ANECDOTES

 *A Humbling Experience in Dimapur*

Life in Dimapur in Assam Rifles has always been full of surprises. One sunny afternoon, I decided to explore the local market. With its vibrant colors and bustling atmosphere, the market was a delightful maze of stalls selling everything from fresh produce to handcrafted souvenirs.

As I wandered through the narrow lanes, I stumbled upon a small stall selling traditional Naga jewelry. Intrigued, I picked up a beautiful necklace adorned with intricate designs and asked the elderly vendor for the price. She quoted a price that seemed exorbitantly high. Remembering my freind’s advice on bargaining, I put on my best negotiation face and began to haggle.

After several rounds of back-and-forth, we finally settled on a price that I thought was a steal. Feeling quite pleased with myself, I walked away, only to hear the vendor and her neighboring stall owners burst into laughter. Curious, I turned back, and the elderly woman cheerfully called out, "Madam, you bargained so hard, but you still paid the tourist price!"

Embarrassed but amused, I couldn’t help but laugh along with them. As I returned home, I realized two important life lessons:

1. *Respect Local Wisdom*: The incident reminded me that locals always know best. They are aware of the going rates and often know when someone is new to the area. Instead of trying to outsmart them, it's sometimes better to seek their guidance and trust their knowledge.

2. *Embrace Humility*: Living in a new place comes with its share of learning curves. Embracing these moments with humility and a sense of humor makes the experience richer and more enjoyable. It's okay to make mistakes; they often lead to the best stories and lessons.

That day, not only did I walk away with a beautiful necklace, but also with a newfound appreciation for the wisdom and warmth of the local community.

SHADOW

 Last night when I were roaming around my quater with my son.There wasn't street light availability on road.He was keep walking in a mid of road steadily and confidently but took my shadow in his vision.The time my shadow merged in shadows of tree or other quaters. He stopped and look behind.It was a beautiful and heart-warming experience that someone relying on me so fondly.

We all look this kind of shadow in our life.The day we trapped in darkness of life.We look behind to see our back.To see who is holding our T-shirt so that we may not stumble in path and got hurt.

People are lucky who has someone to hold them and accountable for their correction of  actions.Those patiencely listen you and believe in your come back.If you are only surrounded by these big dark trees in dark time and found nobody around just hold yourself tight and look for your own shadow. Definitely, there will be time when your shadow merges in shadow of darkness of surroundings but in time of loosing yourself always remember there are some people who's life relying on you .Accept your emotions and be guide of yourself. How hard life is keep throwing at you but yes,Slowly and steadily holding hand of your own shadow you surpass all these hurdles. Dear me,don't loose yourself.