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Why does someone like Aishwarya Rai, who is more successful than her husband and father-in-law, have to work on their choices? Why doesn't she find support in upbringing her daughter when she gives birth? How do property and alliances work in big houses, middle class, and lower classes? Why do properties typically pass from father to son, and how does the power dynamic work? What about the daughter-in-law who sacrifices her life for the family? Why do rules come into play when it comes to her lifestyle, forcing her to downgrade her standards, while daughters are not expected to do the same?
Even in the army, I've seen people nominating their parents, but what about the lady who comes after them? When the law fails or is misused because someone doesn't follow the right methodology, it creates problems. I remember the case of our hostel warden, who was once the wife of an army officer and was disowned by her family after his demise. There are many cases in Haryana and UP where families play a role in drifting apart couples by creating misunderstandings, regardless of whether it's a love or arranged marriage. When ego comes into play between the girl and boy, what kind of patriarchy power is being passed on to the new generations?
Ultimately, a lady has to hold everything together and make a balance to work on relationships because she's considered the essence of the family. They do a wonderful job by playing various roles and sacrificing themselves. But until when will this work like this? What will we teach our daughters - compromise, choosing themselves, or finding a balance in between? Nobody is inherently bad, neither boys nor girls, but this system is spoiling the soul of marriage. How will things change in the new era?"
