SELF-SABOTAGE

Self-sabotage is a behavior in which you know this activity or process gone to hurt you or hinder your progress.

some people undermine their own good intentions and long-term goals. When people take these destructive steps, their harmful behavior can negatively impact nearly every part of their lives even their own health.

 CAUSE -"Cognitive dissonance"

People showing this behavior struggle with cognitive dissonance, or the mental discomfort you may have holding two conflicting ideas at the same time. Human beings like to have consistency between their beliefs and actions.Or may be going through tough period.

HOW TO 🛑-

Find the root cause,That means we undermined our performances not when we were tired, but when we had peak cognitive resources at our disposal. It, therefore, takes a lot of energy to continue this behavior, and it leads to maladaptive outcomes.

Following healthy routine one day and go 4 steps back by binge eating,sleepless nights and day,inactive mode,stop looking after ourselves and take care of each end everything. 

Has to be stopped. 

STEPPING INTO SPOTLIGHT!!

 MY FIRST RAMP-WALK

The stage was set,the lights were dimmed,and the anticipation was palpable as I took my first step on runway. It was a moment I hadn't dreamed of-the chance to strut my stuff on runway and showcase fashion in creatively.This is the unforgettable journey down the runaway as an Army wife.

The was chic mess area transformed into glamorous fashion heaven for the ladies club.The theme of event was 'Urban Elegance '.

After weeks of preparation, I was thrilled to participate in the show.From fitting to rehearsals,the preparation was intense but exhilarating. I  practiced walk relentlessly, striving for the perfect balance of poise and confidence.

At the final moment,as the pulsating beat of music filled the air,I stepped on the runaway, feeling a rush of adrenaline like never before.The spotlight illuminated my path as I glidded effortlessly,channeling the fierce energy of glamorous world.Each step felt like a dance,a graceful expression of self-assurance and style.

My outfit was Egypt princess inpired stunning ensemble that blended sleek velvet dress with textures.Every detail was meticulously curated to enhance my presence on the runaway. 

Backstage was whirlwind of activity,with ladies and their seniors bustling about in a frenzy of creativity.Amidst the chaos,there was a sense of camaraderie and excitement as we prepared weeks to showcase our hardwork and dedication. 

At last moment commander wife changed the positions and turned me into showstopper.We peformed wonderfully.

Walking on ramp was more than just a fashion-show ,it was a transformative experience that pushed me out of my comfort zone and challenged me to embarce my inner strength and confidence. 

As I took my final bow and the applause echoed through the venue.It was the triumph of confidence and hardwork from a 'Tom-boy' girl to glamorous diva.

GITA

 

Bhagavad Gita is the discourse between Lord Krishna and Arjun before the start of the Mahabharata or Kurukshetra War. It consists of the teaching by Lord Krishna in the form of Shlokas or verses that changed Arjuna’s perspective of life. Although Gita is centuries old, its knowledge and logic are relevant today as well, thus, making it a timeless guide. 

Bhagavad Gita shlokas can help us find the right path and make the right choices in difficult times. They guide us to find inner peace, purpose, and true success in life. 

Understanding the shlokas from Bhagavad Gita gives us deep insights into the whys and hows of daily life. By reading Bhagavad Gita regularly, you can experience some remarkable changes in your life and perspective. You will become calmer, happier, and more content.

I learnt two lessons one whosever did wrong with you just go on righteous path without deviation.We should be right in our own life.And when people give you bad experiences don't show them negativity, be non- reactive,don't complain about these people much to others.Geeta and Arthsastra isn't only ancient even part of management studies in many countries. Those make you more wiser & mature. 

AN ART OF LET GO!!

Learning to let go of things can be valuable for personal growth and emotional well-being.

Instead of worrying about things beyond our control, we should focus on what we have the power to change.Mindfulness allows us to notice at the moment and consciously choose to soften, breathe, and let go.So we shouldn't try to control others and accept the situation as well as reality. Whatever isn't belongs to us we shouldn't wish.In life we don't get so many things as good education, parents, set of people,job, money,fame but how many times we start going to wrong direction or start thinking about stealing/robbery etc.Life is compromise between our feelings and reality. At every stage we need to quiet our feelings and accept the reality. Definitely, it's very painful but as soon we learn & follow it.Damage is less.

When I were going through my book 'Man's search for meaning ' is quoted "Ultimately man shouldn't ask what the meaning of life is,but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked".Really? This thought made me awake....

FLORAL CARPET!!

Early morning when pushed myself to go for walk and felt dizziness due to lack of sleep but dressed up in my tracks,started walking.

A cool breeze gave good morning smile,with a beautiful companion" Nature ".I started walking in lush green area.The gardens are a burst of vivid blooms and a visual treat. The picturesque landscape full of manicured lawns and hedges, British style bungalows of seniors and terraces is breathtaking. 

The gardens are known for many varieties of flowers found here along with marigolds, petunias, lilies and bougainvilleas that dot the paths. By and large, it remained a rejuvenating experience where i got a chance to appreciate and admire nature’s wonders.

Afterwards path were going ahead acrossing 'Boghra Chowk' towards bridge.On bridge the bus stop is my favorite destination. Path leading ahead took me to a beautiful floral carpet spreaded by nature only.Trees were swinging in different-different directions and doing rain of flowers on the earth.The whole morning walk was like heaven is here only.Thanks to mother nature and keeper who look after  it.

MY JOURNEY AS AN ARMY WIFE

Being an Army wife comes with its own set of challenges and adventures,often leading to incidents that are rich with life lessons.Here's one:

         As a newlywed I embarked on a journey as an army- wife with excitement and anticipation,eager to support my spouse.Little I know,the road ahead would be filled with uncertainties and moments that would put my resilience to the test.

               The tenure started from small cantonment in Rajasthan. A short memorable posting, initiating me into unit life.I learnt the skill of doing up the most barren place artistically and slowly, I painted in the color of olive green. Meanwhile, due to some engagement we were left alone in remote station.Families preferred to stay back in the same cantonment to not disrupt their wards education.One night,My senior lady called me up and discussed an issue.Promptly we decided to take our own vehicle due to time boundation.We reached in family quaters those were far way due to new constructed buildings and took a seven year old injured boy in our car.He was bleeding heavily in head.I pressed firmly with a cloth on his wound.He treated at MH.Then we consoled his mother.Later on ,we educated and motivated families-

First to ask help,second don't be panic in any situation and most importantly try to learn regional languages to avoid language barrier.

  In this way,I learnt that Army is a community which having a sense of affection,belonging and togetherness despite coming from different backgrounds.We become family to each other.

RAAT

 Yeh sochne wali raat,

Yeh aankon me nikal jaane wali raat,

Yeh khud ki samjhaish wali raat,

Vo thak ker chur hone per bhi,

Aankon me neend na aane wali raat,

Vo jo nahi mila,

Or na mil sakne wala majak,

Us upper wale se,

Hone wali ladai ki raat,

Khud ko jakdne wali raat,

Sab bikhara or tuta hua,

Sametane wali raat,

Jo sahi h bas vahi kerne ko,

Apnane wali raat,

Sab maan Jane per bhi,

Kuch tuta or chubta hua si raat,

Khub takatwar ban Jane per bhi,

Sab chut Jane wali raat,

Khokhala karne wali raat,

Khud ki samjhaish,

Usoolon ki aajmaish wali raat,

Koi na,

Beet jayegi raat,

Per ab kyu

In this era we are too control freak and everything is handy.eg-gasgets,automobiles,etc. But still our own thoughts and emotions are out of control. Isn't there any way to get rid of these feelings?In which way do we also start behaving like machines. 

That only person..

 That only person,

Whom do you rely on,

In your happiness,

In deep sadness, 

In every silence,

In unexplained pain,

In every laughter,

In mid of juggler,

In every struggle, 

In happines of wiggle, 

In any solve of puzzle,

When and where you stuck in,

By whom you are tuck in,

In every presence,

In those absence, 

When sadly you see empty seat,

When you make them proud,

When made them anger loud,

When memories can't be vanished, 

Where judgment is finished, 

They always understand, 

At last ,

Whenever you asked,

Am I right?

They say "yes"

Am with you always. 🤗

They sigh,

And exhaled,

"Yeah,my.....

Lucky whosever have this kinda person in their life.Even it's a single person where you don't need to put any curtains and having full transparency, dependency and relying.Embrace it gracefully. 

BALANCE!

 An ancient Chinese symbol 'Ying-Yang' visualize duality light and dark,positive and negative.It's more than two side of coin,represents balance in life.

 Continuously We all seek off  balance,peace and harmony in life. Balancing among the matter of life gives us satisfaction and gratitude. Direct our direction towards path ahead with clarity.

But we can't get everything in life.Something,  somewhere always left.We can't choose everything. We can't choose day or night, dawn-dusk ,sun-moon together. As well as we can't get good family life and career,our health and family's health,our time and others well-being,our desires and importance of everyone's fuure something need to be sacrificed.

The day you start working on your field gradually you will start moving ahead towards success,knowledge is the key which cannot be taken away from you through you can establish yourself anywhere anytime. 

As physics law 'Entropy' suggests every living and non-living matter looks for balance and shift molecules accordingly.At some level our brain & emotions start working with shifting contentment  towards discontenment.We start looking for those things we left behind to make balance of given situations and it's human tendency. 

So look insightfully in your actions and always pat your backs cause nobody knows better than you what have you faced and get everything done to achieve this balance,overcome discontenment and move ahead on path of more achievements rather discussing what didn't you get in life?

You may be easily entitled as a negative person if you discuss hardship of your life,May be judged easily ,People look at you in pity. As Chankya said"Even your own shadow in mirror shouldn't know the weaknesses of life it may be discourage you".

Keep balance,hold assets tight and move ahead on progressive path.Don't underestimate anything .Everything is having it's own importance at different time and places in life and stop feeling bad cause everyone isn't granted everything in life.

Sometimes champion isn't who just wins ,champion is who shows courage,passion and determination when face adversity .

"Wear your failure as a badge of honor "

                                           -Sunder Pichai

Believe in yourself !!

A GLANCE OF PAST!!

 **The Unexpected Tea Ceremony**

Life in Dimapur has its unique charm, especially as the wife of a dedicated Assam Rifles officer. One particular experience stands out, blending amusement with valuable life lessons.

One early morning, I decided to take a walk through the nearby village, hoping to immerse myself in the local culture. As I strolled past traditional bamboo houses, I noticed a small group of villagers gathered around a table. Curious, I approached them and was warmly invited to join their tea ceremony.

Excited but slightly nervous, I took a seat. The host, an elderly gentleman with a warm smile, began the ceremony by pouring tea from a beautifully decorated pot. As he handed me a cup, he began speaking in rapid-fire Nagamese, the local dialect. Not understanding a word, I smiled and nodded politely.

He then gestured for me to drink the tea. I took a sip and immediately felt my mouth on fire. The tea was infused with an incredibly spicy local herb! Trying to keep my composure, I gulped it down, my eyes watering. The villagers watched, their expressions a mix of curiosity and amusement.

Just as I thought the worst was over, the host refilled my cup, and everyone around the table followed suit. Determined to be polite, I drank cup after cup, each one hotter than the last. By the fourth cup, my tolerance had run out. I gently set my cup down and tried to convey my appreciation with a series of hand gestures and smiles.

The villagers burst into laughter, and the elderly host patted my back. In broken English, he said, "Madam, you brave. But next time, say no if too hot!"

Later that day, as I reflected on the morning's adventure, I gleaned two crucial life lessons:

1. **Embrace the Unexpected**: Living in a new place often brings unexpected challenges and experiences. Embracing these moments with an open mind and a willingness to adapt makes the journey more rewarding and memorable.

2. **Know Your Limits**: It’s important to be polite and respectful, but also to recognize and honor your own limits. There’s no shame in admitting when something is too much to handle. True hospitality is understanding and accommodating, not just enduring.

The spicy tea ceremony became a favorite tale to share with friends and family, a reminder of the joy and richness found in stepping out of one’s comfort zone and the importance of knowing when to say "no, thank you."

HAPPY

 Happiness, 

Wanna to make everyone happy, 

Wanna to see smile on each and every face,

Never wanna to dishearten anyone, 

Wanna to protect every heart from heartbreak, 

When I know,

What other person is thinking, 

When I know,

What other person is doing, 

Neglecting myself, 

Neglecting needs,

Neglecting values, 

Neglecting me,

Taking charge of every smile,

And trying to find happiness in those faces,

Is it alright, 

Am I right,

Or gonna wrong?

Who knows?

And if somebody knows ,

Than let me know please....

EMUSING ANECDOTES

 *A Humbling Experience in Dimapur*

Life in Dimapur in Assam Rifles has always been full of surprises. One sunny afternoon, I decided to explore the local market. With its vibrant colors and bustling atmosphere, the market was a delightful maze of stalls selling everything from fresh produce to handcrafted souvenirs.

As I wandered through the narrow lanes, I stumbled upon a small stall selling traditional Naga jewelry. Intrigued, I picked up a beautiful necklace adorned with intricate designs and asked the elderly vendor for the price. She quoted a price that seemed exorbitantly high. Remembering my freind’s advice on bargaining, I put on my best negotiation face and began to haggle.

After several rounds of back-and-forth, we finally settled on a price that I thought was a steal. Feeling quite pleased with myself, I walked away, only to hear the vendor and her neighboring stall owners burst into laughter. Curious, I turned back, and the elderly woman cheerfully called out, "Madam, you bargained so hard, but you still paid the tourist price!"

Embarrassed but amused, I couldn’t help but laugh along with them. As I returned home, I realized two important life lessons:

1. *Respect Local Wisdom*: The incident reminded me that locals always know best. They are aware of the going rates and often know when someone is new to the area. Instead of trying to outsmart them, it's sometimes better to seek their guidance and trust their knowledge.

2. *Embrace Humility*: Living in a new place comes with its share of learning curves. Embracing these moments with humility and a sense of humor makes the experience richer and more enjoyable. It's okay to make mistakes; they often lead to the best stories and lessons.

That day, not only did I walk away with a beautiful necklace, but also with a newfound appreciation for the wisdom and warmth of the local community.

LIVING IN THE MIST!

Who is freind ,

And who is a foe?

Or is everyone around me a foe?

I can't tell,

Is the approaching me through the mist,

A devil or Angel?

Have he/she come to save me,

Or destroy me?

The Truth is so fragile ,

That even the faintest mist can hide it.

Just Improve.

 Improve yourself,

Just Improve yourself, 

Wherever you are,

In Whichever condition you are,

Who stop you from learning new things,

Who stop you reading new books,

Who stop creating new things,

Find time,

A single moment ,

Who stop you from taking care of your thought,

Who stop you from taking care of your body,

Do yoga,

Move your body,

Whichever suits you,

Whichever suits your conditions,

Everyday is a new begging, 

Start a new lesson, 

And start today,

Cause as you are limited addition,

This time too.

So dear me ,

Start investing in yourself!!

Moments!

 Moments, 

Beautiful moments,

When you wish time could stand still 

Ever & forever, 

But everything changes so fast,

Without realizing,

Life is made up of these fleeting moments,

So live fully, 

Live in memories everyday,

In those laughters,

In those feelings,

When you are truely infront of someone, 

Without any layer,

I cherish dead roses in pages of my book,

Cause fresh roses lives for days but a dead one -"Forever " mine.

All the best!!

 All the very best, 

For your all future endeavors,

Have a look once behind,

And feel immense proud in yourself, 

Take steps towards future,

It's too brightful and cherishing,

Give your best,

As you do in each & everything,

Definitely,

Heart will be on heavier side,

But nothing can't gain in this world without pain,

Feel a holding hand always, 

God is with you!

Manzar hai yeh Naya.. URI song

DAYS!!

 Dear bad days,

      Thanks for coming,

      Thanks for crossing the path,

      Thanks for all the little sufferings,

      Thanks to the everyone whosever judging, 

       You showed me,

        How capable I am,

        How  brave I am,

        How strong morally I am,

        How mature I am,

        Faced everything fiercely, 

        Faced everything  calmly,

        Faced everything Silently,

        Faced everything peacefully,

       Cause silence has it's own language,

       Cause becoming compassionate after    knowing everything ,

       It needs courage and  big heart,

       Thanks for showing me real colors,

       Thanks for showing me human aren't from bookish world,

       Looking forward to meet you each and everyday,

      Keep showing me ,

      My powers!!

      Always focused on the getting the best     version of myself. 

         

 

HOPE!!

 A first ray of sun,

A first thought of day,

A first cup of tea,

In every mirror and thing,

You are there,

When time is tough,

Not a single stone turned against you,

You are there,

Innocent smile,

Naughty or fragile,

In each and every dish,

Not mere in sunset,

Every star & moon,

Late night pray,

Each and every sway, 

You are there,

You are there,

hope!

FALL!!

 A stand still,

Tall tree,

Full of flowers,

Weather changed,

Dried up before time,

Once a soothing breeze came,

Whole tree painted in color of life,

Lived again, 

dried tree starts smile again,

But that's not last long,

Soon all leaf fall,

Tree saw everything with plain face,

And heart wrenching pain,

One leaf stays, 

Whatever going on,

Tree requested to leave it,

But stubborn leaf stayed,

Faced everything with tree along,

Harsh weather was like pleasant eve,

But tree again Stand still in dilemma of..

Values & principles, 

That only leaf stayed there,

How long..?

At last it has to move,

It's beautiful future was looking forward to it,

The pain tree feels can't explain in words,

Tree will never leave this leaf,

Whatever happens, 

And kept dried leaf of memories,

In book,Ever & forever.

Respect

To me,

Respect yourself, 

Respect your identity, 

Respect your beliefs,

Respect your values,

Respect your mistakes, 

Respect your lessons,

Respect yourself whenever back from the deviated path,

Respect your each & every effort, 

Respect your emotions,

Respect your appreciation, 

Pat your back on your own,

Cause you are the only one, 

So Respect your integrity & dignity,

Respect your pride

Who can respect you better than you,

Be with you,

And keep moving tiny or as much,

That's my life!!