"The Elephant in the Brain"

 "The Elephant in the Brain: Hidden Flaws and Hidden Motives" is a thought-provoking book by Kevin Simler and Robin Hanson that explores the unconscious motivations and biases that drive human behavior.

*Key Concepts:*

1. The "Elephant" represents our unconscious mind, which controls most of our thoughts, feelings, and actions.

2. Self-deception: We often hide our true motives from ourselves, leading to conflicting desires and behaviors.

3. Hidden motives: Our unconscious drives, such as status-seeking, mate-seeking, and self-signaling.

*Main Arguments:*

1. Humans are not as rational as we think; our unconscious mind plays a significant role in decision-making.

2. We systematically deceive ourselves about our motivations, leading to self-delusion.

3. Understanding our hidden motives can help us make better choices and improve our relationships.

*Implications:*

1. Politics: Understanding hidden motives can help us navigate conflicts and improve policy decisions.

2. Personal relationships: Recognizing unconscious biases can foster empathy and cooperation.

3. Self-improvement: Awareness of our hidden motives can aid personal growth.

* We aren't as simple as seems to us.

Being on right track!!

 

Here I am sharing some profound habits that form your personality.It is said that even a single thought have impact on manifestation of your future and life.Even these thoughts frame your thought process, reactions and appearances.

*THOUGHTS YOU ENTERTAIN 

The kind of thoughts come in your mind during work or sitting ideal.The kind of discussion you do with others.Field of your interests and curiosity.

*MEDIA YOU CONSUME

The kind of movies & entertainment dramas you watch on different platforms without your sense they change your consciousness. 

*YOUR WORK ENVIRONMENT 

Type of your surroundings and colleagues really matters. 

*HOW YOU HANDLE STRESS

"The flight and fight mechanism"way in which you respond or react.Do you put mental peace above everything and choose stay away from that environment or you Confront immediately and find contentment. 

*MENTAL AND PHYSICAL ACTIVITY 

Daily health regime and mental exercises. Reading hours.

*YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Some relationships are given to us by Almighty or some are chosen by us.Find balance between true one and false one.

*YOUR SLEEP QUALITY 

Your sleep pattern and how sound do you sleep?Sleep pattern select by you.The thought process at the last moment of day.

*YOUR CORE BELIEFS

The beliefs & morals "what is right and what's wrong ?" And how much control do you have on this process?

*YOUR DAILY HABITS

Your habits and routine which is followed by you day to night.

*WHAT YOU EAT

Food is the bestiest medicine so intake it in this way only.

Izzat!!

 Kya jo mila nahi zindgi se,

Jisse itna gila hai,

Kya jaroori hai sab pa jana,

Hota hai ki kuch chut jata h,

Jo tumhare liye sab kuch tha,

Yeh bhawnaye hai jo bheti si,

Nirmal or saral,

Tu bas kud ko badhata chal,

Shukriya aada ker waqt ache ka,

Or nikharta chal kaushal apne,

Bas kartvyon me dub ja pura,

Tu tere liye mahatpuran h,

Itna hi kafi h,

Hausla rakh,

Or khud per yakeen.

Silent Battels!!

 A silent battle refers to the internal struggles and challenges that individuals face, often unseen and unheard by others. It is a personal and private war that rages within, as one navigates through difficulties, emotions, and conflicts. This silent battle can manifest in various forms, such as mental health issues, emotional turmoil, or hidden hardships. Despite appearances of calmness and normalcy on the surface, the person may be fighting to overcome fears, anxieties, or painful experiences. The silent battle requires resilience, courage, and determination to persevere, and its warriors often emerge stronger and wiser, though sometimes scarred. Recognizing and acknowledging these unseen struggles is crucial in providing support and understanding to those who are fighting their own silent battles.They need true relationships and unconditional compassion.So just support each other we don't know whose's going through which silent battel.

"Surrounded by faces, stories untold,

Silent struggles, hearts turned cold.

A rainy day, gloominess descends,

Music, coffee, work, no solace sends.

Trapped in a role, living for show,

Longing for someone that's not mine,

Fear of hurting others, a heavy weight,

'Am I doing right?' echoes through the night.

Torn between truth and pretended peace,

Shall I vanish, or find release?

In what depths do I lose myself?

A search for solace, a heartfelt wealth.

Growth!!

 Growth,

Where we don't allow each other to quite,

Growth,

Where distraction from path isn't allowed,

Growth,

Where we don't allow being sad for a moment ,

Growth,

A path towards dreams,those seems unattainable, 

Growth, 

Leaving all comfort zone and pushing hard till last moment, 

Growth, 

Towards happiness with right consciousness,

Growth,

Moving ahead on righteous path,

Growth, 

A motivation and care!!

Keep achieving zenith. Till the time we have purpose in life any kind of negativity cannot touch anyone. 

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Sang!!

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Dharti ne kanha sang choda hai,

Kya aasman hata sir se kabhi,

Nadyino ne kanha kabhi behna band kiya h,

Sang ye to sadiyoon se raha h,

Janha mann mila ho,

Kanha badlon ne baarish ko choda h,

Kanha podhon ne phoolon ko,

Or phoolon ne titliyon ko,

Mile na sahi per,

Sath to fir bhi h,

Kabhi akelepan me,

Kisi uljhan me,

Har khushi me,

Aage badhne me,

Yaad aati h,

Lagta h,

Ab kya ho raha hoga?

Per tham lena h usko,

Saath to kanha choda h kabhi kisi ka,

Sabko saath le chalni ki,

Purani aadat rahi h,

Bas saath hamesha hu,

Har us aage chalte path per..

Parents!!

 The day I saw someone taking care of his parents,I realized" what do they ask from us?".We can't do anything for them except take care of their name and prestige.They must have dreams about their son's marriage or daughter's marriage. They only want to see them in a fulfilled relationship.Their kids as their grandchildren.I can imagine their dreams and happiness. So we all try to give our best wherever we are and whatever we do.Keep going with full dedication.

Parents jinhe sabdon me banyan kerna namumkeen hai,

Jo duniya me late hi nahi,

Duniya bhar ki khusiya daman me daal,

Jatate bhi nahi,

Parents, Jo bhagwan ka hi ek partiroop h,

Kya nahi ker jate ,

Sirf chere ki choti si muskan ,

Or tyoriyon ki ek lakeer ko mitane khateer,

Parents, 

Sab sikh jate h naya ,

Khud ko bhool jate hamari dafa,

Chup-chup gum ko kanhi daba,

Muskura,himmat ban,

Apne dard chupa ,

Vo dil ka ho ,ya sharir ka,

Ho jate hai hamari  duniya me sarik,

Na jatate hamari haar ka dard,

Na hamari jeet ka haq,

Jo asal me unki hi h,

Parents, 

Kya hi de paye hum unhe,

Or kya de payenge,

Bas kabhi raste galat nahi lene h,

Unka maan salamat rakhna hai,

Jo bhi ho muskura har din uthna hai,

Jo kabhi chatan se laga karte the,

Ab dil darne laga h,

Roz roz milne ko tadpne laga,

Kaise basar ker payenge unke bina hum apna jivan,

Jab pata koi nahi is itni badi duniya me tumhare bina,

Parents.....

Raay!!

 Never give explanation for your taken steps!

Raay ,bhi kya gazab ki cheez h,

Lena koi nahi chahta,

Dene ko sab tyaar rahte h,

Kuch Naya ek tajurbe ne sikhaya,

Chahe kitna bhi apnapan ho,

Kabhi na jatana apne sangharsh or taqliphen,

Yeh samjhana dikaton ka kisi ko,

Ek raay bananva jayega,

Waqt to fir bhi badal jayega,

Akele me aansoon baha,

Fir sambhal jana bhetar hai,

Bas khud per yakeen or himmat rakna,

Sab badal jayega jald hi,

Raha vo na,

To kismet dum h jo yeh waqt tik payega,

Bas prayas mat chondna.

Mindset

As I got up early in the morning ,read 4 pages of book and started doing cooking as fast as I could do.Made Daughter and son ready,Dropped my daughter at school bus stop.Afterwards started walking with pram in hands and accompanied beautiful weather along with a wonderful mindset.A enchanting voice of song from my earpods complimented the aura.I had coffee after coming, listened audio books.

 I promised myself that I won't think about past and future.Walked through whole place in present mind set,analyzed do & don't, strength and weaknesses.Realized ,i have given the best in every area so now  need to give preference to my goals.No more blaming, only blessings.Will try more & more if I will fail than also i would learn something for my betterment. Wanna to learn so many new things like icing the cake more appropriately, Yes Guitar that still isn't good enough,improve communication skills ,Read an article related to this that explains "the most important skill of life is expression" if you can't express yourself in appropriate manner than possibilities of survival and liking from others may defer inspite of your effort ,dedication and your own personality, people will misunderstood you. Will stop taking stress inspite of this will take charge of my life and fulfill my wanderlust on my own,many more..wishes of Kargil diwas to all.

Be Thankful!!

Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don't know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations, because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge, because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you're tired and weary, because it means you've made a difference.

It's easy to be thankful for the good things. A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.

Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.

Gratitude!

 A early morning thoughts, 

A prayer for all,

A big thank you to God for everything, 

And try to accept the change,

The reality that isn't pleasant,

Plan for today's aim,

And memory of good things with close eyes,

Be strong,

Stay strong,

Things are changed,

They can be changed, 

Anywhere-anytime,

Don't crave for the same,

Accept poiletly and with love,

Whatever God used to be served, 

I'll accept the situation, 

Thank you for everything. 

DIGNITY!!

 Dignity

Where thoughts are defiled with Anger, greed, violence and pride; Where mind revolts against the truth And carries the lies as its guide;

Where heart follows words of sinners Where men cease to act as healers; Where actions push lives into woes Where river of wisdom never flows;

Where heart does not care to repent For the deeds unlawfully done; Where from the hearts of people Feelings of love and kinship are gone;

To that world, O God, don't show me the way Help me; as a stone, under your feet let me stay.

Tiku akp

Don't loose your dignity, be mindful and be on righteous path any how.

FOCUS!!

 

Life is mix of spices like a cuisines,combination of boon and bane,the thing drive our needs and direction is our focus.You focus on glass half full or empty. 

So Ebb and flow, ebb and flow, ebb and flow again—honour the cycles and rhythms of nature. Honour what your inner landscape is revealing to you at the moment. Being present with your pain means sitting with it and acknowledging its existence. It means accepting your feelings as they are, without trying to change or suppress them. 

That said, you’re also being reminded that you’re in the midst of a transition at the moment. Not everybody in your orbit will cross that bridge with you. Don't toll your loved one with your personal problems, don't discuss your own story with anyone,peace with the fact that growth will require you to venture into the wilderness alone, and that’s okay.Accept the truth and let them move on!

Simply reminding you of a mantra -Embrace the grind, but make it fashion! Picture yourself as the artisan of your own life, meticulously crafting your masterpiece with dedication and flair. Your attention to detail and commitment to excellence haven't gone unnoticed, so keep polishing those skills—you’re about to shine brighter than ever before! Think of every task as a brushstroke on the grand canvas of your life, whether it's fine-tuning your target or mastering a new skill. If taking the given step enables you to move closer to the big goal, the answer is ‘what are you waiting for?’

Let's make a life✍️

 

Let's create happiness surround us and make our dream come true.Let's make the current situation as an opportunity of lifetime to redefine ourselves.Staying with in laws is getting to a positive note, isn’t this an opportunity to do many things which i wanted to do but always said i don’t have time due to indulgence of Army affairs. Suddenly i have ample time to talk to my families and friends, improve the bonds by filling up the cracks that might have come in past, get to know what our next generations likes and dislikes and most importantly self-introspection to assess if we are on right path.

Doing household chores take as a opportunity to weight reduction and providing more hygiene level to our lifestyles.

Doing banking work and shopping and going mall everyday by my own is improving my driving skills too.

Meeting more people each and everyone gives us deep insights the way everyone loves you and giving you ideas about the games people play.

Kids become more flexible and skilled in people speaking.

Best time to do SWOT analysis to become aware of our true strengths and development needs, learn about the opportunities & threats.

I need to have a firm belief that this phase is going to get over soon and there is a next phase of happiness waiting to welcome us. After every gloomy day there is a bright sunshine. Let’s make this a win-win situation, hit two birds with one stone of self-isolation, kill the unknown bad habits and fill our current gaps for a better future.

After all at the end of day the thing matters the most is you.Your's health, success and happiness. Take care of yourself my dear.

"A journey"

 "North-east to South-west"

When frequent traveling is part of your life and love of your life.A beautiful dream to become solo-traveler always is enchanting voice in your heart and slowly, you are heading towards it.

From the very same dream,I got an experience of journey of North to South in a single day.The scene of road traveling in Bengal to Rajasthan. A sky trip of tropical airports with vivid scenarios of rich culture.  

Chootanaa!!

 Kuch na kuch choot hi jata h,

Kitna bhi sambhal loo,

Ek ko thamu to khuch or choot hi jata h,

Mann sambhalu to Maan,

Or Maan sambhalu to Mann,

Kuch to chut hi jata h,

Yanha sab itna mushkil kyu h?

Ek tees chubti rehti h saankh si dil me,

Sapne sambhalu to apne,

Apne sambhalu to sapne,

Kuch to choot hi jata h,

Aas rakhu to vishwas, 

Or vishwas rakhu to aas,

Kuch to choot hi jata h,

Ab kisko choonu?

PATH AHEAD!!

 Embark on a new journey, 

Warm blood rush to move further,

Roam in ambiguity,

Vision of future with past view,

Mistakes won't repeat, 

Took promise of this league,

Don't be sentimental, 

This world is not worth of your emotions, 

Emotionals are fool of the era,

Hold these inside,

Hold these inside for you only,

Life is too small,

Along a long way,

Be careful,  

And take care of yourself,

We aren't here to take nonsense from anyone, 

Take steps further on right path,

Lift your chin and head,

And stamp your feet in victory!!

WOMAN

 There’s a unique power within every woman, and certain situations allow it to shine brighter than ever.

Life throws us all kinds of curveballs, but there are circumstances where strong women don’t just survive; they thrive.

One thing is for sure – life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. There are times when it feels like the world is working against us, and obstacles seem to be popping up left and right.

Strong women find ways to adapt, overcome, and ultimately thrive in these situations. These are the moments that shape them, define them and make them the powerhouses they are.

We have this innate ability to turn empathy into action. They don’t just feel for others – they stand with them, fight for them, and give them the support they need.

Being underestimated or undervalued isn’t a setback for these women. It’s a catapult. A launching pad that propels them to greater heights.

In my own journey of self-discovery and growth, I’ve found that the moments I’ve felt most fulfilled were when I was confidently standing on my own two feet

It’s raw, it’s scary, and it’s incredibly powerful. When strong women face their fears, they prove to themselves – and to everyone else – just how strong they really are. They don’t just survive these situations – they thrive, and it’s nothing short of inspiring.

CELEBRATE!!

 Celebrate,

When you achieve alot,

Celebrate, 

When you start working more,

Celebrate, 

When you got lessons and reasons more,

Celebrate,

When new beginnings surrounds over all,

Celebrate, 

When you patiently proven alot,

Celebrate,

When you only have expectations from yourself, 

Celebrate,

When you survived & lived happily,

Celebrate, 

When you come to know your new strengths,

Celebrate, 

When you embrace change,

Celebrate, 

When you keep going on righteous path,

Celebrate, 

Each & every moment, 

Cause, 

Zindgi na mile dubara $&@"'....

SELF-SABOTAGE

Self-sabotage is a behavior in which you know this activity or process gone to hurt you or hinder your progress.

some people undermine their own good intentions and long-term goals. When people take these destructive steps, their harmful behavior can negatively impact nearly every part of their lives even their own health.

 CAUSE -"Cognitive dissonance"

People showing this behavior struggle with cognitive dissonance, or the mental discomfort you may have holding two conflicting ideas at the same time. Human beings like to have consistency between their beliefs and actions.Or may be going through tough period.

HOW TO 🛑-

Find the root cause,That means we undermined our performances not when we were tired, but when we had peak cognitive resources at our disposal. It, therefore, takes a lot of energy to continue this behavior, and it leads to maladaptive outcomes.

Following healthy routine one day and go 4 steps back by binge eating,sleepless nights and day,inactive mode,stop looking after ourselves and take care of each end everything. 

Has to be stopped.