Growth!!

 Growth,

Where we don't allow each other to quite,

Growth,

Where distraction from path isn't allowed,

Growth,

Where we don't allow being sad for a moment ,

Growth,

A path towards dreams,those seems unattainable, 

Growth, 

Leaving all comfort zone and pushing hard till last moment, 

Growth, 

Towards happiness with right consciousness,

Growth,

Moving ahead on righteous path,

Growth, 

A motivation and care!!

Keep achieving zenith. Till the time we have purpose in life any kind of negativity cannot touch anyone. 

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A coffee date.

 After dropping my daughter at her school.I went with my son for super market to get veggies and groceries and then finally after a long period I took myself on coffee date with my lil hero.We sat on a corner seat and made my baby sat on high-chair.

A beautiful rainy day with aroma of coffee feels like heaven.My sweetheart was smiling and making sound of crackles after looking at visitors.Nothing can give more happiness than his face.I ordered my favorite 'Dagolana coffee'.Mesmerized in the taste of coffee and lost in past memories. Flashback of The college memories were infront of my eyes.A girl full of life so lively about to touch her dreams. Whenever I needed to get print out of books from photocopy shop.I took hault in Book Cafe "CCD or Barista".Sometimes it's raining a beautiful artificial fountain poured water in GT Mall and visible from corner seat of Cafe.A book completed the whole company. 'RAIN,COFFEE & BOOK'.I used to dream about my work life ,the time some visitors came to Cafe with there blackberry & Iphone and had meetings there.When time passed I weren't able to get at all.And with a deep sigh and dream of future in my heart I took city bus or taxi to reach at hostel.

Suddenly I come to senses with present coffee date of my lil hero.Staff offered a balloon to him so that momaa can finish her coffee & brownie.Though my taste has changed I start liking Starbucks now but that lingering feel of past and that girl may be lost somewhere. Will try to revive her again.

To over A beautiful rainy date I tried to get a lovely selfie with the most handsome man of the world but somehow he wasn't showing any interest in that. Had to leave my nostalgic memories and place there and headed towards destination 'The home'.

Coastle countries of world

 

Sang!!

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Dharti ne kanha sang choda hai,

Kya aasman hata sir se kabhi,

Nadyino ne kanha kabhi behna band kiya h,

Sang ye to sadiyoon se raha h,

Janha mann mila ho,

Kanha badlon ne baarish ko choda h,

Kanha podhon ne phoolon ko,

Or phoolon ne titliyon ko,

Mile na sahi per,

Sath to fir bhi h,

Kabhi akelepan me,

Kisi uljhan me,

Har khushi me,

Aage badhne me,

Yaad aati h,

Lagta h,

Ab kya ho raha hoga?

Per tham lena h garima ko,

Saath to kanha choda h kabhi kisi ka,

Sabko saath le chalni ki,

Purani aadat rahi h,

Bas saath hamesha hu,

Har us aage chalte path per..

Parents!!

 The day I saw someone taking care of his parents,I realized" what do they ask from us?".We can't do anything for them except take care of their name and prestige.They must have dreams about their son's marriage or daughter's marriage. They only want to see them in a fulfilled relationship.Their kids as their grandchildren.I can imagine their dreams and happiness. So we all try to give our best wherever we are and whatever we do.Keep going with full dedication.

Parents jinhe sabdon me banyan kerna namumkeen hai,

Jo duniya me late hi nahi,

Duniya bhar ki khusiya daman me daal,

Jatate bhi nahi,

Parents, Jo bhagwan ka hi ek partiroop h,

Kya nahi ker jate ,

Sirf chere ki choti si muskan ,

Or tyoriyon ki ek lakeer ko mitane khateer,

Parents, 

Sab sikh jate h naya ,

Khud ko bhool jate hamari dafa,

Chup-chup gum ko kanhi daba,

Muskura,himmat ban,

Apne dard chupa ,

Vo dil ka ho ,ya sharir ka,

Ho jate hai hamari  duniya me sarik,

Na jatate hamari haar ka dard,

Na hamari jeet ka haq,

Jo asal me unki hi h,

Parents, 

Kya hi de paye hum unhe,

Or kya de payenge,

Bas kabhi raste galat nahi lene h,

Unka maan salamat rakhna hai,

Jo bhi ho muskura har din uthna hai,

Jo kabhi chatan se laga karte the,

Ab dil darne laga h,

Roz roz milne ko tadpne laga,

Kaise basar ker payenge unke bina hum apna jivan,

Jab pata koi nahi is itni badi duniya me tumhare bina,

Parents.....

Perfect communication!!

 Life is a beautiful journey and we all are sailing through it surrounded by tide & ebb.These ups and downs make us alive and zeal towards living.Mesnwhile sometimes a charming person become a part of hatred of everyone.Or two wonderful people can't carry a realionship towards a beautiful destination cause in life we all say sometimes "What is meant and not said,And what is said and not meant". Those beautiful emotions and admiration we couldn't express due to lack of communication skills and carry those words those really doesn't mean anything in an emotional influence like stress,temperaments."Sone pe suhaga"that person always carry grudges on those spoken words which really doesn't mean anything and beautiful thoughts words are remainef unspoken-unheard life long.Whole chemistry among the people is  changed on lack of communication skill.And if first person try to correct & console later on second person doesn't believe on him and give a tag of negative term-liar ,cunning,clever etc.So start educating yourself and learn communication skills in a better way.

Blessings!!

 Count your blessings instead of your crosses;

Count your gains instead of your losses.

Count your joys instead of your woes;

Count your friends instead of your foes.

Count your smiles instead of your tears;

Count your courage instead of your fears.

Count your full years instead of your lean;

Count your kind deeds instead of your mean.

Count your health instead of your wealth;

Count on God instead of yourself.

Raay!!

 Never give explanation for your taken steps!

Raay ,bhi kya gazab ki cheez h,

Lena koi nahi chahta,

Dene ko sab tyaar rahte h,

Kuch Naya ek tajurbe ne sikhaya,

Chahe kitna bhi apnapan ho,

Kabhi na jatana apne sangharsh or taqliphen,

Yeh samjhana dikaton ka kisi ko,

Ek raay bananva jayega,

Waqt to fir bhi badal jayega,

Akele me aansoon baha,

Fir sambhal jana bhetar hai,

Bas khud per yakeen or himmat rakna,

Sab badal jayega jald hi,

Raha vo na,

To kismet dum h jo yeh waqt tik payega,

Bas prayas mat chondna.

Mindset

As I got up early in the morning ,read 4 pages of book and started doing cooking as fast as I could do.Made Daughter and son ready,Dropped my daughter at school bus stop.Afterwards started walking with pram in hands and accompanied beautiful weather along with a wonderful mindset.A enchanting voice of song from my earpods complimented the aura.I had coffee after coming, listened audio books.

 I promised myself that I won't think about past and future.Walked through whole place in present mind set,analyzed do & don't, strength and weaknesses.Realized ,i have given the best in every area so now  need to give preference to my goals.No more blaming, only blessings.Will try more & more if I will fail than also i would learn something for my betterment. Wanna to learn so many new things like icing the cake more appropriately, Yes Guitar that still isn't good enough,improve communication skills ,Read an article related to this that explains "the most important skill of life is expression" if you can't express yourself in appropriate manner than possibilities of survival and liking from others may defer inspite of your effort ,dedication and your own personality, people will misunderstood you. Will stop taking stress inspite of this will take charge of my life and fulfill my wanderlust on my own,many more..wishes of Kargil diwas to all.

Be Thankful!!

Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don't know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations, because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge, because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you're tired and weary, because it means you've made a difference.

It's easy to be thankful for the good things. A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.

Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.

To dear woman.....✍️

 Dear Woman,

          Everyone will do injustice with you because you are weak.The kind of set up is served by society to you always makes you more weaker.Here the people who should become your protector exploit you more as well explained in hindi proverb "Baadh khet ko khaye" but you have to strong enough with a kind heart who's always forgive them just because of relationships and respect them.Yes,stay silent and notify them but don't react.Stay silent.

Become your own strength, take care of yourself ,improve your skills and be fierce. Don't depend on anyone except yourself.You are your power-house.Be a beautiful soul with a silent tigress spirit.If you get everything in life than stop showing off and playing games with others.life is precious gift.Don't try to become oversmart,it doesn't take you anywhere. Be like water pure and simple.

Embrace challenges and be thankful for God given gifts.Invest in those gifts.Motherhood is a great challenging journey but prove yourself like JIJABAAI & SHAKUNTALA. You have immense strength within yourself. Without any support you can make supreme of history as Bharat and Shivaji.Just invest yourself without any expectation of results.Don't feel alone. You are enough for yourself.

 So be kind to yourself as you are with others.Stop criticizing yourself, accept mistakes and start learning new things. Take care of your mental and physical well-being. 

Majboot

Bade khushnaseeb hote h vo log,

Jo chain se so pate h,

Jo ji aapna bhalate h,

Kabhi gungunante h,

Kabhi sajte or sawarnte h,

Apni narajaigiyaan khul ker jatate h,

Kabhi zid karte h,

Kabhi sir kandhe per rakh dete h,

Kabhi chod saari jimmedariyan ,

Unhe jatate h,

Pura haqq jatate h,

Kuch nasabion me,

Itna sukoon,

Or zindgi nahi hoti,

Koi garmjoshi nahi hoti,

Hanste to hain vo upar se,

Kartavya nibhate to h her duje ke,

Yeh narajgiyan jata bhi nahi pate,

Per kis pal,

Har us pal,

Se darne lagte h,

Jab haath judne lagte h,

Har us mandir or masjid me,

Bas dua us zindgi ki,

Jisse Judi zindgiyan kai h,

Andar-andar gum bhot h,

Ghabrahat bhaut h,

Bas jatani nahi hoti,

Khud ko sambhal,

Her kisiko sambhalna hota h,

Kuch ni hoga,

Sabko yakeen dilana hoga,

Per khud ko chain kanha,

Majboot bhaut h yeh kandhe bhi,

Tabhi khuda ne bhi hume Choona hoga!! 

Bad Behavior!!

 Whenever I commited something wrong and try convince myself with the name of circumstances, people or place,these lines echoes in my mind always.I stopped putting blame on others and accept the guilty.Rahim dhohas the soul of life....and triggering of my bad behavior. Where did it start and how to put control by replacing it with good behavior. 

A behavior or a habit,its impact on our life in long term or short term.It's usually hard to change a habit because the behavior has become easy and automatic. The opposite is true, too: New behaviors can be hard because your brain's basal ganglia, the “autopilot” part, hasn't taken over this behavior yet. Simplifying new behaviors helps you integrate them into your autopilot routines.

Then thought about the keypoints those can change these bad behaviors as some was mentioned in a book "The Habit".As mentioned in below points-

Identify cues.

Something has to trigger a habit, and a cue can be anything. Maybe stress makes you crave chocolate.Identifying cues helps you understand what puts your habits into motion.

1.Disrupt-

Once you know the cues, you can throw bad habits off track.

2.Replace-

Research shows that replacing a bad behavior with a good one is more effective than stopping the bad behavior alone. The new behavior “interferes” with the old habit and prevents your brain from going into autopilot. Deciding to eat fruit every time your mind thinks “cookie” substitutes a positive behavior for the negative habit.

3.Keep It simple-

4.Think long-term-

Habits often form because they satisfy short-term impulses, the way chewing on your nails might immediately calm your nerves. But short-term desires often have long-term consequences, such as nasty, splintered, chewed-up fingers. Focusing long term while trying to change some habits will help you remember why you’re investing in the effort.

5.Persist-

Research has shown that what you’ve done before is a strong indicator of what you’ll do next. This means established habits are hard to break. But if you keep at it, your new behaviors will turn into habits, too. Persistence works — at first it might be painful to get up at 5 a.m. for that jog, but soon it will be second nature.

By following above cycle trying to break hard governed habit over my brain and want to replace my bad habits into good one.

Aapa-dhaapi!!

 Let it all go to see what stays!!

Yeh kaisi,

Aapa-dhaapi h,

Sab lage hai bhagne piche,

Apne-apne lakshyon ke,

Udeshyon ke,

Yeh juthe rishte,

Yeh dikhawati sambandh,

Or unki dum ghontati jimmedariyan,

Akele baith jab sochne lagi main,

To laga juth hi sab jagah,

Or Hans pada mann ,

Logon ke yeh bhi mera,

Yeh bhi mera,

Kis liye akhir,

Kon h tumhara ,

Asal me yanha,

Bogoge kiske saath,

Maine chod diya sab,

Khuli muthi se koi chinnega,

Kya kuch?

Prinaam!!

I read a quote today and it goes like this"When you don't see the results and wanna give up remember the last thing grow on a tree is fruit."

Duniya prinaam dekhti hai,

Ki kya ker dikhaya h,

Kanha chuk gaye,

Kitna chuk gaye,

Zara se chuk gaye,

Koi maayne nahi rakthe,

Kin halaton,

Kitne sathon me,

Yeh koi ni dekhta,

Dikhta h to ,

Vo aakhri prinaam,

Jeet ya vo haar,

Bas parinaam!!

Gratitude!

 A early morning thoughts, 

A prayer for all,

A big thank you to God for everything, 

And try to accept the change,

The reality that isn't pleasant,

Plan for today's aim,

And memory of good things with close eyes,

Be strong,

Stay strong,

Things are changed,

They can be changed, 

Anywhere-anytime,

Don't crave for the same,

Accept poiletly and with love,

Whatever God used to be served, 

I'll accept the situation, 

Thank you for everything. 

DIGNITY!!

 Dignity

Where thoughts are defiled with Anger, greed, violence and pride; Where mind revolts against the truth And carries the lies as its guide;

Where heart follows words of sinners Where men cease to act as healers; Where actions push lives into woes Where river of wisdom never flows;

Where heart does not care to repent For the deeds unlawfully done; Where from the hearts of people Feelings of love and kinship are gone;

To that world, O God, don't show me the way Help me; as a stone, under your feet let me stay.

Tiku akp

Don't loose your dignity, be mindful and be on righteous path any how.

FOCUS!!

 

Life is mix of spices like a cuisines,combination of boon and bane,the thing drive our needs and direction is our focus.You focus on glass half full or empty. 

So Ebb and flow, ebb and flow, ebb and flow again—honour the cycles and rhythms of nature. Honour what your inner landscape is revealing to you at the moment. Being present with your pain means sitting with it and acknowledging its existence. It means accepting your feelings as they are, without trying to change or suppress them. 

That said, you’re also being reminded that you’re in the midst of a transition at the moment. Not everybody in your orbit will cross that bridge with you. Don't toll your loved one with your personal problems, don't discuss your own story with anyone,peace with the fact that growth will require you to venture into the wilderness alone, and that’s okay.Accept the truth and let them move on!

Simply reminding you of a mantra -Embrace the grind, but make it fashion! Picture yourself as the artisan of your own life, meticulously crafting your masterpiece with dedication and flair. Your attention to detail and commitment to excellence haven't gone unnoticed, so keep polishing those skills—you’re about to shine brighter than ever before! Think of every task as a brushstroke on the grand canvas of your life, whether it's fine-tuning your target or mastering a new skill. If taking the given step enables you to move closer to the big goal, the answer is ‘what are you waiting for?’

Let's make a life✍️

 

Let's create happiness surround us and make our dream come true.Let's make the current situation as an opportunity of lifetime to redefine ourselves.Staying with in laws is getting to a positive note, isn’t this an opportunity to do many things which i wanted to do but always said i don’t have time due to indulgence of Army affairs. Suddenly i have ample time to talk to my families and friends, improve the bonds by filling up the cracks that might have come in past, get to know what our next generations likes and dislikes and most importantly self-introspection to assess if we are on right path.

Doing household chores take as a opportunity to weight reduction and providing more hygiene level to our lifestyles.

Doing banking work and shopping and going mall everyday by my own is improving my driving skills too.

Meeting more people each and everyone gives us deep insights the way everyone loves you and giving you ideas about the games people play.

Kids become more flexible and skilled in people speaking.

Best time to do SWOT analysis to become aware of our true strengths and development needs, learn about the opportunities & threats.

I need to have a firm belief that this phase is going to get over soon and there is a next phase of happiness waiting to welcome us. After every gloomy day there is a bright sunshine. Let’s make this a win-win situation, hit two birds with one stone of self-isolation, kill the unknown bad habits and fill our current gaps for a better future.

After all at the end of day the thing matters the most is you.Your's health, success and happiness. Take care of yourself my dear.

"A journey"

 "North-east to South-west"

When frequent traveling is part of your life and love of your life.A beautiful dream to become solo-traveler always is enchanting voice in your heart and slowly, you are heading towards it.

From the very same dream,I got an experience of journey of North to South in a single day.The scene of road traveling in Bengal to Rajasthan. A sky trip of tropical airports with vivid scenarios of rich culture.  

Chootanaa!!

 Kuch na kuch choot hi jata h,

Kitna bhi sambhal loo,

Ek ko thamu to khuch or choot hi jata h,

Mann sambhalu to Maan,

Or Maan sambhalu to Mann,

Kuch to chut hi jata h,

Yanha sab itna mushkil kyu h?

Ek tees chubti rehti h saankh si dil me,

Sapne sambhalu to apne,

Apne sambhalu to sapne,

Kuch to choot hi jata h,

Aas rakhu to vishwas, 

Or vishwas rakhu to aas,

Kuch to choot hi jata h,

Ab kisko choonu?

PATH AHEAD!!

 Embark on a new journey, 

Warm blood rush to move further,

Roam in ambiguity,

Vision of future with past view,

Mistakes won't repeat, 

Took promise of this league,

Don't be sentimental, 

This world is not worth of your emotions, 

Emotionals are fool of the era,

Hold these inside,

Hold these inside for you only,

Life is too small,

Along a long way,

Be careful,  

And take care of yourself,

We aren't here to take nonsense from anyone, 

Take steps further on right path,

Lift your chin and head,

And stamp your feet in victory!!

WOMAN

 There’s a unique power within every woman, and certain situations allow it to shine brighter than ever.

Life throws us all kinds of curveballs, but there are circumstances where strong women don’t just survive; they thrive.

One thing is for sure – life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. There are times when it feels like the world is working against us, and obstacles seem to be popping up left and right.

Strong women find ways to adapt, overcome, and ultimately thrive in these situations. These are the moments that shape them, define them and make them the powerhouses they are.

We have this innate ability to turn empathy into action. They don’t just feel for others – they stand with them, fight for them, and give them the support they need.

Being underestimated or undervalued isn’t a setback for these women. It’s a catapult. A launching pad that propels them to greater heights.

In my own journey of self-discovery and growth, I’ve found that the moments I’ve felt most fulfilled were when I was confidently standing on my own two feet

It’s raw, it’s scary, and it’s incredibly powerful. When strong women face their fears, they prove to themselves – and to everyone else – just how strong they really are. They don’t just survive these situations – they thrive, and it’s nothing short of inspiring.

Peas in a pod!!

 Don't know,

How strings get attached,

Don't know,

How the smile doesn't stop on faces,

Don't know,

How when conversations aren't going to off,

Don't know,

How does heart feels when they will meet,

Don't know,

How,when you think only he/she understands,

Don't know,

When you wait whole day till evening to share,

Don't know,

How you start liking his/her choices,

Don't know, 

When will we sit touch by backs and listen songs,

Don't know,

When will read same book by lying with each other, 

May be,

Cause of someone realise you first time this feeling, 

That you have read in books/in movies. 

CELEBRATE!!

 Celebrate,

When you achieve alot,

Celebrate, 

When you start working more,

Celebrate, 

When you got lessons and reasons more,

Celebrate,

When new beginnings surrounds over all,

Celebrate, 

When you patiently proven alot,

Celebrate,

When you only have expectations from yourself, 

Celebrate,

When you survived & lived happily,

Celebrate, 

When you come to know your new strengths,

Celebrate, 

When you embrace change,

Celebrate, 

When you keep going on righteous path,

Celebrate, 

Each & every moment, 

Cause, 

Zindgi na mile dubara $&@"'....

Grateful!!

 

To each and every person of my life. Thank you God.

SELF-SABOTAGE

Self-sabotage is a behavior in which you know this activity or process gone to hurt you or hinder your progress.

some people undermine their own good intentions and long-term goals. When people take these destructive steps, their harmful behavior can negatively impact nearly every part of their lives even their own health.

 CAUSE -"Cognitive dissonance"

People showing this behavior struggle with cognitive dissonance, or the mental discomfort you may have holding two conflicting ideas at the same time. Human beings like to have consistency between their beliefs and actions.Or may be going through tough period.

HOW TO 🛑-

Find the root cause,That means we undermined our performances not when we were tired, but when we had peak cognitive resources at our disposal. It, therefore, takes a lot of energy to continue this behavior, and it leads to maladaptive outcomes.

Following healthy routine one day and go 4 steps back by binge eating,sleepless nights and day,inactive mode,stop looking after ourselves and take care of each end everything. 

Has to be stopped. 

STEPPING INTO SPOTLIGHT!!

 MY FIRST RAMP-WALK

The stage was set,the lights were dimmed,and the anticipation was palpable as I took my first step on runway. It was a moment I hadn't dreamed of-the chance to strut my stuff on runway and showcase fashion in creatively.This is the unforgettable journey down the runaway as an Army wife.

The was chic mess area transformed into glamorous fashion heaven for the ladies club.The theme of event was 'Urban Elegance '.

After weeks of preparation, I was thrilled to participate in the show.From fitting to rehearsals,the preparation was intense but exhilarating. I  practiced walk relentlessly, striving for the perfect balance of poise and confidence.

At the final moment,as the pulsating beat of music filled the air,I stepped on the runaway, feeling a rush of adrenaline like never before.The spotlight illuminated my path as I glidded effortlessly,channeling the fierce energy of glamorous world.Each step felt like a dance,a graceful expression of self-assurance and style.

My outfit was Egypt princess inpired stunning ensemble that blended sleek velvet dress with textures.Every detail was meticulously curated to enhance my presence on the runaway. 

Backstage was whirlwind of activity,with ladies and their seniors bustling about in a frenzy of creativity.Amidst the chaos,there was a sense of camaraderie and excitement as we prepared weeks to showcase our hardwork and dedication. 

At last moment commander wife changed the positions and turned me into showstopper.We peformed wonderfully.

Walking on ramp was more than just a fashion-show ,it was a transformative experience that pushed me out of my comfort zone and challenged me to embarce my inner strength and confidence. 

As I took my final bow and the applause echoed through the venue.It was the triumph of confidence and hardwork from a 'Tom-boy' girl to glamorous diva.

PATH ENLIGHTENER!!

 

According to the epic poem Mahabharata, Krishna becomes Arjuna's charioteer for the Kurukshetra War, but on the condition that he personally will not raise any weapon. Upon arrival at the battlefield and seeing that the enemies are his family, his grandfather, and his cousins and loved ones, Arjuna is moved and says his heart will not allow him to fight and kill others. He would rather renounce the kingdom and put down his Gandiva (Arjuna's bow). Krishna then advises him about the nature of life, ethics, and morality when one is faced with a war between good and evil, the impermanence of matter, the permanence of the soul and the good, duties and responsibilities, the nature of true peace and bliss and the different types of yoga to reach this state of bliss and inner liberation. This conversation between Krishna and Arjuna is presented as a discourse called the Bhagavad Gita.

GITA

 

Bhagavad Gita is the discourse between Lord Krishna and Arjun before the start of the Mahabharata or Kurukshetra War. It consists of the teaching by Lord Krishna in the form of Shlokas or verses that changed Arjuna’s perspective of life. Although Gita is centuries old, its knowledge and logic are relevant today as well, thus, making it a timeless guide. 

Bhagavad Gita shlokas can help us find the right path and make the right choices in difficult times. They guide us to find inner peace, purpose, and true success in life. 

Understanding the shlokas from Bhagavad Gita gives us deep insights into the whys and hows of daily life. By reading Bhagavad Gita regularly, you can experience some remarkable changes in your life and perspective. You will become calmer, happier, and more content.

I learnt two lessons one whosever did wrong with you just go on righteous path without deviation.We should be right in our own life.And when people give you bad experiences don't show them negativity, be non- reactive,don't complain about these people much to others.Geeta and Arthsastra isn't only ancient even part of management studies in many countries. Those make you more wiser & mature. 

TUM

Main jab bhi tumhare bare me sochti hu,

Betahasa sochti hu, 

Or phir ban jaati hai ek ladi,

Un lamhon ki, yaadon ki, 

Hamari baaton ki, 

Tumhari gairmojudgi me bhi, 

Main tumse baatein karti hu, 

Tum aksar, 

Har waqt mere sang hote ho, 

Tumhe khone se itna darta h dil,

Per usse jyada,

Tumhe gam na dene se darta h dil,

Mujhe tumhe hamesha muskurate dekhna h Tum mere liye kya ho, 

Ab kaise batau,

 Bas tum khud samjh jao.

 

AN ART OF LET GO!!

Learning to let go of things can be valuable for personal growth and emotional well-being.

Instead of worrying about things beyond our control, we should focus on what we have the power to change.Mindfulness allows us to notice at the moment and consciously choose to soften, breathe, and let go.So we shouldn't try to control others and accept the situation as well as reality. Whatever isn't belongs to us we shouldn't wish.In life we don't get so many things as good education, parents, set of people,job, money,fame but how many times we start going to wrong direction or start thinking about stealing/robbery etc.Life is compromise between our feelings and reality. At every stage we need to quiet our feelings and accept the reality. Definitely, it's very painful but as soon we learn & follow it.Damage is less.

When I were going through my book 'Man's search for meaning ' is quoted "Ultimately man shouldn't ask what the meaning of life is,but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked".Really? This thought made me awake....

FLORAL CARPET!!

Early morning when pushed myself to go for walk and felt dizziness due to lack of sleep but dressed up in my tracks,started walking.

A cool breeze gave good morning smile,with a beautiful companion" Nature ".I started walking in lush green area.The gardens are a burst of vivid blooms and a visual treat. The picturesque landscape full of manicured lawns and hedges, British style bungalows of seniors and terraces is breathtaking. 

The gardens are known for many varieties of flowers found here along with marigolds, petunias, lilies and bougainvilleas that dot the paths. By and large, it remained a rejuvenating experience where i got a chance to appreciate and admire nature’s wonders.

Afterwards path were going ahead acrossing 'Boghra Chowk' towards bridge.On bridge the bus stop is my favorite destination. Path leading ahead took me to a beautiful floral carpet spreaded by nature only.Trees were swinging in different-different directions and doing rain of flowers on the earth.The whole morning walk was like heaven is here only.Thanks to mother nature and keeper who look after  it.

Yaadein!

 Yaadein, 

Kabhi dikh jaati hai ,

Raah se jaate jaate,

Kabhi dikh jati hai bewaqt,

Kanhi kuch khate khate,

Kabhi roti hain yaadein, 

Jab main hansti hu zoro se,

Kabhi hansti hai yaadein, 

Jab hum thak jatein h ro ro ker,

Aksar,

Khali kursiyon per baith ker,

Yaadein humse baatein karti hai,

Yeh chod ker nahi jati,

Yeh saath rahne ka vada kerti h..

MY JOURNEY AS AN ARMY WIFE

Being an Army wife comes with its own set of challenges and adventures,often leading to incidents that are rich with life lessons.Here's one:

         As a newlywed I embarked on a journey as an army- wife with excitement and anticipation,eager to support my spouse.Little I know,the road ahead would be filled with uncertainties and moments that would put my resilience to the test.

               The tenure started from small cantonment in Rajasthan. A short memorable posting, initiating me into unit life.I learnt the skill of doing up the most barren place artistically and slowly, I painted in the color of olive green. Meanwhile, due to some engagement we were left alone in remote station.Families preferred to stay back in the same cantonment to not disrupt their wards education.One night,My senior lady called me up and discussed an issue.Promptly we decided to take our own vehicle due to time boundation.We reached in family quaters those were far way due to new constructed buildings and took a seven year old injured boy in our car.He was bleeding heavily in head.I pressed firmly with a cloth on his wound.He treated at MH.Then we consoled his mother.Later on ,we educated and motivated families-

First to ask help,second don't be panic in any situation and most importantly try to learn regional languages to avoid language barrier.

  In this way,I learnt that Army is a community which having a sense of affection,belonging and togetherness despite coming from different backgrounds.We become family to each other.

That only person..

 That only person,

Whom do you rely on,

In your happiness,

In deep sadness, 

In every silence,

In unexplained pain,

In every laughter,

In mid of juggler,

In every struggle, 

In happines of wiggle, 

In any solve of puzzle,

When and where you stuck in,

By whom you are tuck in,

In every presence,

In those absence, 

When sadly you see empty seat,

When you make them proud,

When made them anger loud,

When memories can't be vanished, 

Where judgment is finished, 

They always understand, 

At last ,

Whenever you asked,

Am I right?

They say "yes"

Am with you always. 🤗

They sigh,

And exhaled,

"Yeah,my.....

Lucky whosever have this kinda person in their life.Even it's a single person where you don't need to put any curtains and having full transparency, dependency and relying.Embrace it gracefully. 

BALANCE!

 An ancient Chinese symbol 'Ying-Yang' visualize duality light and dark,positive and negative.It's more than two side of coin,represents balance in life.

 Continuously We all seek off  balance,peace and harmony in life. Balancing among the matter of life gives us satisfaction and gratitude. Direct our direction towards path ahead with clarity.

But we can't get everything in life.Something,  somewhere always left.We can't choose everything. We can't choose day or night, dawn-dusk ,sun-moon together. As well as we can't get good family life and career,our health and family's health,our time and others well-being,our desires and importance of everyone's fuure something need to be sacrificed.

The day you start working on your field gradually you will start moving ahead towards success,knowledge is the key which cannot be taken away from you through you can establish yourself anywhere anytime. 

As physics law 'Entropy' suggests every living and non-living matter looks for balance and shift molecules accordingly.At some level our brain & emotions start working with shifting contentment  towards discontenment.We start looking for those things we left behind to make balance of given situations and it's human tendency. 

So look insightfully in your actions and always pat your backs cause nobody knows better than you what have you faced and get everything done to achieve this balance,overcome discontenment and move ahead on path of more achievements rather discussing what didn't you get in life?

You may be easily entitled as a negative person if you discuss hardship of your life,May be judged easily ,People look at you in pity. As Chankya said"Even your own shadow in mirror shouldn't know the weaknesses of life it may be discourage you".

Keep balance,hold assets tight and move ahead on progressive path.Don't underestimate anything .Everything is having it's own importance at different time and places in life and stop feeling bad cause everyone isn't granted everything in life.

Sometimes champion isn't who just wins ,champion is who shows courage,passion and determination when face adversity .

"Wear your failure as a badge of honor "

                                           -Sunder Pichai

Believe in yourself !!

A GLANCE OF PAST!!

 **The Unexpected Tea Ceremony**

Life in Dimapur has its unique charm, especially as the wife of a dedicated Assam Rifles officer. One particular experience stands out, blending amusement with valuable life lessons.

One early morning, I decided to take a walk through the nearby village, hoping to immerse myself in the local culture. As I strolled past traditional bamboo houses, I noticed a small group of villagers gathered around a table. Curious, I approached them and was warmly invited to join their tea ceremony.

Excited but slightly nervous, I took a seat. The host, an elderly gentleman with a warm smile, began the ceremony by pouring tea from a beautifully decorated pot. As he handed me a cup, he began speaking in rapid-fire Nagamese, the local dialect. Not understanding a word, I smiled and nodded politely.

He then gestured for me to drink the tea. I took a sip and immediately felt my mouth on fire. The tea was infused with an incredibly spicy local herb! Trying to keep my composure, I gulped it down, my eyes watering. The villagers watched, their expressions a mix of curiosity and amusement.

Just as I thought the worst was over, the host refilled my cup, and everyone around the table followed suit. Determined to be polite, I drank cup after cup, each one hotter than the last. By the fourth cup, my tolerance had run out. I gently set my cup down and tried to convey my appreciation with a series of hand gestures and smiles.

The villagers burst into laughter, and the elderly host patted my back. In broken English, he said, "Madam, you brave. But next time, say no if too hot!"

Later that day, as I reflected on the morning's adventure, I gleaned two crucial life lessons:

1. **Embrace the Unexpected**: Living in a new place often brings unexpected challenges and experiences. Embracing these moments with an open mind and a willingness to adapt makes the journey more rewarding and memorable.

2. **Know Your Limits**: It’s important to be polite and respectful, but also to recognize and honor your own limits. There’s no shame in admitting when something is too much to handle. True hospitality is understanding and accommodating, not just enduring.

The spicy tea ceremony became a favorite tale to share with friends and family, a reminder of the joy and richness found in stepping out of one’s comfort zone and the importance of knowing when to say "no, thank you."

HAPPY

 Happiness, 

Wanna to make everyone happy, 

Wanna to see smile on each and every face,

Never wanna to dishearten anyone, 

Wanna to protect every heart from heartbreak, 

When I know,

What other person is thinking, 

When I know,

What other person is doing, 

Neglecting myself, 

Neglecting needs,

Neglecting values, 

Neglecting me,

Taking charge of every smile,

And trying to find happiness in those faces,

Is it alright, 

Am I right,

Or gonna wrong?

Who knows?

And if somebody knows ,

Than let me know please....

EMUSING ANECDOTES

 *A Humbling Experience in Dimapur*

Life in Dimapur in Assam Rifles has always been full of surprises. One sunny afternoon, I decided to explore the local market. With its vibrant colors and bustling atmosphere, the market was a delightful maze of stalls selling everything from fresh produce to handcrafted souvenirs.

As I wandered through the narrow lanes, I stumbled upon a small stall selling traditional Naga jewelry. Intrigued, I picked up a beautiful necklace adorned with intricate designs and asked the elderly vendor for the price. She quoted a price that seemed exorbitantly high. Remembering my freind’s advice on bargaining, I put on my best negotiation face and began to haggle.

After several rounds of back-and-forth, we finally settled on a price that I thought was a steal. Feeling quite pleased with myself, I walked away, only to hear the vendor and her neighboring stall owners burst into laughter. Curious, I turned back, and the elderly woman cheerfully called out, "Madam, you bargained so hard, but you still paid the tourist price!"

Embarrassed but amused, I couldn’t help but laugh along with them. As I returned home, I realized two important life lessons:

1. *Respect Local Wisdom*: The incident reminded me that locals always know best. They are aware of the going rates and often know when someone is new to the area. Instead of trying to outsmart them, it's sometimes better to seek their guidance and trust their knowledge.

2. *Embrace Humility*: Living in a new place comes with its share of learning curves. Embracing these moments with humility and a sense of humor makes the experience richer and more enjoyable. It's okay to make mistakes; they often lead to the best stories and lessons.

That day, not only did I walk away with a beautiful necklace, but also with a newfound appreciation for the wisdom and warmth of the local community.

OPPORTUNITY!

 Till the time we are alone and full-fledged by resources, it's the best time of life.When we realize the timings,opportunity slips through our palm like a sand.Time is tick-toking so fast.Utilize this abundance and availability of your own presence in life.There is no one to deviate you from your path.You are the king of your life.You can give time to your dreams,no one is there to spoil your health routine & regime.No one is there to stop you from reading and exploring the life.

Wanna to be a fitnes freak,self-dependent with wayfarer spirit on.Keeping the Josh high.Hurray to the life.

Right-wrong

 Who is right,

Who is wrong,

Everyone have ,

It's definition differentiate alone,

Kalam is right,

Who makes others life,

Not dreamed alone,

Or Hitler who dreamed alone,

Jijabaai is right,

Or kaikai is right,

Who is right Shakuntala,

Who made a king of Bharat,

Rather blaming,

Or Cassandra who spoiled everything,

Gandhi or Godse,

Devdas who shattered everything in emotional immaturity, 

Or Tata who made lots of life in his unforgettable love,

People who took pain for others,

And remain on good values,

To give good future to all,

Or blaming others through, 

Negative perception,

At last,

Who....

Why every given importance,

Revert back in wrong manner,

Why people only judge into wrong manner,

Why can't they see sacrifices,

May be it's time to stop explaining,

May be it's time to live life for others,

For those who lost their aim,

For those who lost parents,

For those who lost everything,

For those who don't grant everything in life,

Live for them,

They will not judge you,

as selfish or in other manner,

And know the meaning of ....

And understanding,

Lord Krishna is there,

Live for him,

He won't judge you.

Ade Raho!!

 अगर जुनून हो सिर पे तेरे

और अन्तर मे हो विश्वास
मकसद मे सच्चाई है तो
              सीना ठोक के यही कहो,
मकसद मे सच्चाई है तो
              सीना ठोक के यही कहो
झुकना होगा दुनिया तुमको
              विश्वास पे अपने खड़े रहो
              अड़े रहो,
दुनिया बदली है जिसने भी।।
पहले उसको इंकार मिला
               दुनिया बदली है जिसने भी।।
                पहले उसको इंकार मिला
अपमानों का हार मिला
और तानों का उपहार मिला
                 आ विश्वास मे अब विश्वास करो
                 और लहरों के विपरित बहो
हाथो मे विजय मसाल लिए
विश्वास पे अपने खड़े रहो
                 विश्वास पे अपने खड़े रहो
                 अड़े रहो, अड़े रहो
अपने सपने तुम स्वयं चुनो
और बुन लो विश्वास की डोरी से
                अपने सपने तुम स्वयं चुनो
                और बुन लो विश्वास की डोरी से
तुम विजय गर्जना के नायक
तुमको क्या करना लोरी से
                 तुम स्वयं सिद्ध इस जीवन के
                 उन्मुक्त गगन मे उड़े चलो
आरंभ आज से नवयुग का
विश्वास पे अपने खड़े रहो
                       विश्वास पे अपने खड़े रहो
                       अड़े रहो, अड़े रहो!

CURSE

 According to the Bruce Lipton, the author of biology of belief, when people of Solomon Islands curse the trees, they actually install negative and demoralize thoughts in the mind of trees (yes, trees do have minds too).Tree starts believing in belief of unworthiness.Witin somedays it dies.

In a same way when you are surrounded by set of people who always curse you and try to downgrade for whatever reason promptly how hard you try to be confident your self-belief and inner strength shake.You start reacting and behaving in a negative manner.The level of frustration and emotional turmoil you have been through can't be explainable.Meanwhile your old" you" is trying hard for resiliency, time tells who will win and loose but keep the Josh high inner-sprite.

SHADOW

 Last night when I were roaming around my quater with my son.There wasn't street light availability on road.He was keep walking in a mid of road steadily and confidently but took my shadow in his vision.The time my shadow merged in shadows of tree or other quaters. He stopped and look behind.It was a beautiful and heart-warming experience that someone relying on me so fondly.

We all look this kind of shadow in our life.The day we trapped in darkness of life.We look behind to see our back.To see who is holding our T-shirt so that we may not stumble in path and got hurt.

People are lucky who has someone to hold them and accountable for their correction of  actions.Those patiencely listen you and believe in your come back.If you are only surrounded by these big dark trees in dark time and found nobody around just hold yourself tight and look for your own shadow. Definitely, there will be time when your shadow merges in shadow of darkness of surroundings but in time of loosing yourself always remember there are some people who's life relying on you .Accept your emotions and be guide of yourself. How hard life is keep throwing at you but yes,Slowly and steadily holding hand of your own shadow you surpass all these hurdles. Dear me,don't loose yourself. 

SIDDHANT

 Siddhant,

Beech main aa jate hai,

Yeh yaad dilaten zimmedari,

Tumhari apni khani, 

Khyaalon se nikal, 

Hakkikat se rubroo kerwate h,

Siddhant, 

Akasar log napsand kerte hai,

Or inko manane walon ko bhi,

Per yeh siddhant  saath rahte h aksar mere,

Yeh batalate h ,

Ki sahi marg per raho,

Or karm kerte chalo,

Apne sanskaron se digo mat.

Inner Voice!!

 

The voice one inside,

The one that whispers,

It tells me,

What is right,

And what is wrong, 

When to leave,

And where to go,

It's not Shakespeare,

It doesn't speak,

In memorable lines,

My inner voice ,

Always gives it to me straight,

Tell me ,

When to say yes,

When to say no,

Wheather the action is taken in next minute,

Will be right,

Or make guilty,

Whole life,

Yes ,sometimes,

Emotions overpowers,

Sometimes that voice isn't crystal clear,

Go,

Stay,

Right,

Wrong,

Sometimes it merely whispers.

Don't let it drown in noisy world,

Because in the end ,

No Man or woman,

Or Algorithms,

Knows what's right for you,

Always trust your inner voice!!

It says always be on righteous path whatever happens!!!!!

LIVING IN THE MIST!

Who is freind ,

And who is a foe?

Or is everyone around me a foe?

I can't tell,

Is the approaching me through the mist,

A devil or Angel?

Have he/she come to save me,

Or destroy me?

The Truth is so fragile ,

That even the faintest mist can hide it.

LOYALTY!!

 When everyone is busy in spending time in watching IPL,i were reading about Pannadhay.An old nanny from 15th century of rajasthan royal family.A brave & courageous rajput lady who sacrificed her own son on behalf of Prince/King Uday Sing son of Rana Sanga to save his life from his own uncle.Yes,loyalty.The state or quality of being loyal,faithfulness to commitments or obligations.It adherence to relationships,institutes,sovereign, government,leader ,cause etc.You cannot think beyond it in any manner.These moral values stops you from deviating from right path in an emotional moment where your emotions overpowered.  Definitely these moral values sound suffocating but stopped you from taking any wrong step.In long term it benefits in building good character on which you proud of.Yes,this loyalty in which you can't cross boundaries on any value imaginary or reality.At this point anybody can be tested as a freind,spouse,employee and nationalist.So grip on it.  Don't loose it for building a good relationship,institution or nation.Along with it believe in the process of contentment. 

Happy Holi!!

 Holi is a popular and significant Hindu festival celebrated as the Festival of Colours, Love, and Spring.Additionally, the day signifies the triumph of good over evil,as it commemorates the victory of Vishnu as Narasimha over Hiranyakashipu. It's celebrated in welcoming of spring.

There is a also popular symbolic legend behind the festival. In his youth,Krishna despaired whether the fair-skinned Radha would like him because of his dark skin color.His mother Yasodha, tired of his desperation, asks him to approach Radha and ask her to colour his face in any colour she wanted. Ever since ,this playful colouring of Radha and Krishna's faces has been commemorated as Holi.So Holi diminishes all kind of discrimination as caste,color,gender and other inequalities. 

Problem arises when people start manipulating the way of celebrations.Issues are like :-

Issues related to  health ,environmental,behavioral and ethical impacts.

Health impacts are hazardous affect of using chemical based colors on skin or eyes.Environmental impacts are affect of degradation of water & soil quality of using colors.

Ethical impacts are down grade of ethical practices as consuming alcohol,drugs etc by youth or all ages.

A religious festival with good message should not be going in this direction.As soon as our youth will understand it we'll start preserving hindu culture as well as national ethics. 

Happy Holi to everyone!

VARDAAN

 यह हार एक विराम है

जीवन महासंग्राम है
तिल-तिल मिटूँगा पर दया की भीख मैं लूँगा नहीं ।
वरदान माँगूँगा नहीं ।।

स्‍मृति सुखद प्रहरों के लिए
अपने खण्डहरों के लिए
यह जान लो मैं विश्‍व की सम्पत्ति चाहूँगा नहीं ।
वरदान माँगूँगा नहीं ।।

क्‍या हार में क्‍या जीत में
किंचित नहीं भयभीत मैं
संघर्ष पथ पर जो मिले यह भी सही वह भी सही ।
वरदान माँगूँगा नहीं ।।

लघुता न अब मेरी छुओ
तुम हो महान बने रहो
अपने हृदय की वेदना मैं व्‍यर्थ त्‍यागूँगा नहीं ।
वरदान माँगूँगा नहीं ।।

चाहे हृदय को ताप दो
चाहे मुझे अभिशाप दो
कुछ भी करो कर्त्तव्य पथ से किन्तु भागूँगा नहीं ।
वरदान माँगूँगा नहीं ।।

Writer -Shiv shankar"SUMAN"